Why is variety good for us?
I recently wrote a blog series about the importance of variety and novelty in relationships and in the bedroom.
When somebody’s sex life falls a bit flat, the popular wisdom is that you just need to “spice things up”.
But familiarity isn’t the enemy – sexual comfort and routine allows a couple to gain valuable knowledge and techniques for turning each other on, often lets them relax more during sex and experience less performance anxiety, and usually provides a sense of emotional safety in the bedroom.
But it is true that familiarity and sexual routine can become too dominant in a relationship, leading to less sexual passion, sexual boredom, and low prioritising of sex.
