Sexual Difficulties


Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski – a great book about the science of female sexuality exploring topics like sexual interest, sexual arousal, and barriers to enjoyable sex.

Good Loving Great Sex & Where Did My Libido Go by Dr Rosie King – two books about building a sensual and satisfying sexual relationship and managing mismatched libido/desire discrepancies in a couple.

Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma by Staci Haines – a guide for survivors of sexual assault experiencing sexual difficulties in adulthood (focus is on women).

When Your Sex Drives Don’t Match: Discover Your Libido Types to Create a Mutually Satisfying Sex Life by Sandra Pertot – about different sexual/libido styles and strategies for mismatched sexual styles within a relationship.

When Sex Hurts by Andrew Goldstein, Caroline Pukall and Irwin Goldstein – provides information on the different causes of sexual pain, treatment options, and ideas about rebuilding sexual intimacy. Click here for more resources o. sexual pain.

Why Pelvic Pain Hurts by Adriaan Louw, Sandra Hilton & Carolyn Vandyken – a brief and practical book about managing pelvic and sexual pain. Click here for more resources o. sexual pain.


OMGYes – an app designed to help women explore sexual pleasure by teaching different touch techniques. The focus is on cis women and their partners, but the exercises are relevant to anyone with a vulva and vagina.

Sex toys and Sexual Aids – trusted suppliers

Lynda Carlyle’s Adult Store

Passionfruit Sensuality Store

Finding help

If finding help has become difficult, here are some options to explore.

The Society of Australian Sexologists

Monash Health Sexual Medicine and Therapy (Moorabin)

Royal Women’s Hospital Sexual Counselling Clinic (Parkville)